Every year when Father's Day comes around I always like to remember all the moms that do both the job of mom and dad.
Being a mom myself I am very appreciative of the special "holidays". They are just another reason for my family to get together and celebrate our family. But I am very aware of all the moms that have it a little tougher on these types of holidays. Whether it be sharing time with an ex or not having your significant other around or having an absentee parent, its not easy when these "holidays" come up.
Being a military spouse, I know too well what it feels like to have to become mom and dad for your child. My husbands job does take him away from his family often and we just take it day by day when he is absent.
This year Father's Day ( his first official one) he happened to be gone for. We made sure to make him feel just as special as he would if he were at home. We FaceTimed often throughout the day and I did a little special project with my daughter that I sent him.
Its not just being a military spouse that makes me appreciate the single moms out there. My own mom has been a single mom and she is my hero. She is the strongest person ever. I can't even imagine not having such a great role model for me and my daughter to look up to. She makes me feel so lucky to have her to lean on when I feel my world is falling apart. My mom has been through many obstacles and has powered through them like a boss!!
I have many friends and family members that don't see how this lifestyle can really change you. I have a front I put up most days that show that its all ok. When I see that others are down I make sure that they have someone to lean on. Ive always been that person for others. But I also want those around me to know that some times I'm not as put together as I may seem. And that is ok. That is just how life is.
This Father's Day I am grateful that I have family and friends around me. That I can talk to my husband and know that he is safe. That I have a healthy happy baby. That I am not alone.
Being mom and dad everyday that my husband is gone is not any easy job but it is one that I don't take for granted. I love the life we have created and I love the family we have been blessed with. It is very tiring and trying and can be super stressful but I wouldn't change it all for the world.
Every mom out there that is doing this double duty job, know you are appreciated and loved. Know you are amazing! Know you are doing an amazing job! Know you are a super hero! Know you are not alone! Know you can ask for help! Know you are beautiful! Know you are not forgotten on days like this!
I am always here for anyone who needs to just chat about how hard this life can be and how being a mom can just pluck your last nerve. It is all ok. My promise to you is to be as real as I possibly can with my own life so that you can know you are not alone. You are never alone.
